Week Three: Shields and Scars

My assignment this week is to write about the parts of me that I like. Today is not that ideal day for this task; nor was yesterday or the day before that. For weeks my flaws graffiti the walls of my thoughts. Every weakness and failing highlighted in neon. I could write an encyclopedia of failures, from the mundane to the spectacular. But I am to write about attributes I like…about…me.

At my core, a hard nub of self-doubt resides in a warm little pool of humor. Without the humor, I would at best be Eeyore, and at worst be the human black hole sucking joy out of every moment of my life. Thank the gods (you should say, right now, in your most devout way) for that little bit of laughter. It has been my shield and my comfort for all my adult life. I don’t overstate when I say that without my deflecting wit, I would not have been able to navigate the overwhelming chasm between my introversion and the grand society of The Others. In that carbon blot of self-doubt, I have always known that I know nothing, that I have no grace, that I cannot compare, that I will never catch up to where The Others started, that I am no more special than a grain of sand, that I have nothing to say. And then, while not nullifying that knowledge, my humor allows that a person who knows nothing, and yet embraces that as true, in fact has possession of some quantity of information. And then I smile, knowing that while graceless I may be, the argument was perhaps a little elegant. And then I self-efface my ignorance, while pointing out that The Others might in truth have missed something that only a fool might see.

There. I do treasure my shield and use it daily.

And then there are the two long scars on my knees. The right one runs vertically to the right of center. The left one is more equidistant, but less vertical. One puckers a little. The other is finer, and its lower inches are barely visible. I adore them both. My fingers often massage them when I’m thinking hard about something. It is a motion that evolved over the years of the increasing pain, when the cartilage stripped away and each femur ground into the top the tibias, leaving the living bone pocked and degraded. These were the years my knees gave out climbing into the bleachers, and I fell onto strangers, the years when I could not move from my seat at a Broadway show until the joint snapped back into working order. And these were the years my gait changed into equal parts sideways motion combined with forward motion. My duck years.

Knee replacement surgery is violent. The surgeon cut my bones off and fitted joints of titanium and plastic over the truncated ends. Everything else involved – muscle, nerve, blood vessels, skin – was thoroughly man-handled in the two operations, which each lasted only a few minutes. Two small areas of numbness remain to this day, each on the outer sides of the joints, where the nerves never quite recovered. My fingers rub those areas too, without conscious thought, as if the digits are confused by these lost places within my body, and entertain hope that prodding will make everything right again. Nerves don’t work that way.

So there are two impressive scars on my fat knees. I wasn’t going to start wearing short skirts anyways, so my vanity is not ruffled. Instead, I climb stairs fluidly, I merge into the concert crowds without hesitation, and I can walk from Boston’s Commons all the way to Chinatown for noodles. And only a shadow of my old companion, the chronic pain of the joints grinding away, stays in my memory, and stirs my fingers to rub, rub, rub the pale white lines.

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6 Responses to Week Three: Shields and Scars

  1. Mali says:

    That first paragraph is simply stunning. (The italicised intro is gorgeous too.) Surely you like that about yourself?

    But if you do tell yourself the lie that you know nothing (I can relate to that internal dialogue), which then you must also know that no-one else can know anything either, and at least you admit it. And with humour. That is indeed something to love about yourself.

    And may I say that if this week was a bad week for writing this topic, then this topic is probably exactly what you needed.

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  2. I am pre replacement at this stage. I had necrotic bone in my left knee that was cleaned up and healed ok for now but my right is starting the same symptoms and the junk catching in the joint in the morning turns me into Frankenstein’s monster. But I understand the numb dead feeling of scar and the habitual checking of it.

    I need folks like you in my life to make me think and try and talk and see.

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    • kmarieh1 says:

      So sorry, because I know exactly the pain you know. Just take one unsolicited piece of advice: do not wait too long to get this surgery. I did, and am dealing always with the ramifications of becoming sedentary due to the years of increasing pain. My second, newer knee actually has replaceable parts, meaning that if it begins to fail, due to age and wear, the surgery will be less traumatic. Lord knows what improvements they’ll make in the next few years.


      • Bridgett says:

        My grandfather’s replacements, first generation, were so monstrous compared to both my parents’ replacements (both parents, both knees each). Yours is obviously since my dad’s second. I know I can have the family orthopedic surgeon do to my right what he did to my left and give me a few more years–the left knee is really good and strong. But yes. I know it’s coming, and sooner rather than later.


  3. Helen says:

    As always, I am blown away by your writing.


    Another non-Other


  4. indigobunting says:

    So, so beautiful. And oh, this: “I don’t overstate when I say that without my deflecting wit, I would not have been able to navigate the overwhelming chasm between my introversion and the grand society of The Others.” Thanks for stating this thing to which so many can relate.


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